Someone very dear to me has been having marital problems for
the best part of a year. I have always been a willing listener, whether it’s
with friends/family/work. In this instance, I’ve been a sounding board, a
sympathiser, basically I’ll-give-you-advice-if-you-want-it-but-mainly-listen.
She and her partner have decided to spend some time apart. I’ve
been told that he was “adamant” that she not stay with me during this time, and
that he didn’t want her spending any time with me.
I am her sister.
I was flabbergasted when she told me this. Wtf? Apparently,
he feels that I have somehow betrayed him. I should have told her that her [insert
thoughts/behaviour] were wrong. I am a bad influence and have somehow given her
the impression that single life is all rosy and fun.
I am so disappointed that my BIL
would think so badly? so little? of me to try and influence someone in this
way, anyone, let alone my sister. She is far more stubborn than me and I doubt
that my opinion (had I offered it) would have had much sway anyway.
I don’t know how I can look him
the eye now after knowing this. Whether they decide to stay together or
separate, I will always be involved because of their children. He may be
embarrassed about me knowing what’s happened, but I’m more upset that he
considers me a negative influence in her life.
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