Split up with your husband. Because I said so.

Someone very dear to me has been having marital problems for the best part of a year. I have always been a willing listener, whether it’s with friends/family/work. In this instance, I’ve been a sounding board, a sympathiser, basically I’ll-give-you-advice-if-you-want-it-but-mainly-listen.

She and her partner have decided to spend some time apart. I’ve been told that he was “adamant” that she not stay with me during this time, and that he didn’t want her spending any time with me.

I am her sister.

I was flabbergasted when she told me this. Wtf? Apparently, he feels that I have somehow betrayed him. I should have told her that her [insert thoughts/behaviour] were wrong. I am a bad influence and have somehow given her the impression that single life is all rosy and fun.

I am so disappointed that my BIL would think so badly? so little? of me to try and influence someone in this way, anyone, let alone my sister. She is far more stubborn than me and I doubt that my opinion (had I offered it) would have had much sway anyway.

I don’t know how I can look him the eye now after knowing this. Whether they decide to stay together or separate, I will always be involved because of their children. He may be embarrassed about me knowing what’s happened, but I’m more upset that he considers me a negative influence in her life.

Advice? Ask me how!

 

Online dating - the last hurrah?

I decided to close my online dating profile on [site x] this month. It’s been a long and arduous slog, and I am battle weary. Just kidding. It has been interesting, and I’ve had more success with this site than with [site y]. Just for the heck of it, I decided to turn my matches back on for my final days, as a last hurrah if you like. Ah, things never change. The same appalling spelling and grammar, the occasional very odd match. A couple that took my eye for various reasons in the last few days...

• Articulate 30 something year old, nice smile. “Things you should know?” -  living with his 3 kids and ex-wife in the family home. Oh dear.
• One guy, 6 out of 6 of his profile pictures – wearing a full face motorcycle helmet.
• 35yo lists his occupation as “living”, and that he’s thankful for “existing and having a brain”. Oh, I beg to differ.

 

ADDIT: Guy #1 has sent me a message. I'm fascinated yet turned off. Will I reply? Stay tuned.

 

ADDIT 2: I replied, but it was a "thanks, but no thanks". I'm rather content with my dating/love life right now, plus wayyyy too much odd. He's probably quite a nice person, but that's got to be a tough thing to sell to someone. Good luck dude!



Twentee Thirteen

First blog post for the year!
Last night I sat at triage on night shift. It was extraordinarily dead, compared to the past few days of the holiday season. I:
- pondered the mysteries of the universe (didn't come up with any answers);
- perved on the parade of police officers (mmm, just a little bit); and
- thought about what I wanted to write this year.
I didn't reach any conclusion, except that I need to practice, practice, practice.

Forgive my 3am brain for this one...

Fluorescent lights glow
Caressing the ghostly skin
Of the night shift nurse.

You get a lot more customers if you wear this instead of your uniform as the triage nurse on night shift. Umm, so I've heard.